September 13, 2011.
Six months ago today, I lost my dear and precious mom.
Mama.
The days seem to get easier as time goes on,
but days, like today, are the hard ones.
Birthdays, Christmas, Mother's Day...
and the monthly turning of the page to the 13th...
those are the difficult ones.
It's also the smaller, quieter moments which hit
particularly hard.
Like wanting to just pick up the phone and share
some happy news, some recent success.
She was always my biggest fan.
Treasure those you love.
Let them know and more importantly,
show them while they are still here.
Me: "i love you"
My Mom: "i love you more"
I lost my mom when she was just 60...I was pregnant with my son. It is the hardest thing...to lose your mom...there are daysstill...that I just want to talk to her and see her beautiful face...thank God for sisters and family. They "get it" and are always willing to listen.
ReplyDeleteDear Anne,
ReplyDeleteWe who don't have our mothers here with us anymore are in a special club. No one can truly understand who still has their mom here. I, too, was blessed with an incredible woman for my Mom.
She was my biggest cheerleader, too, and we were best friends. She was the most loving, nurturing person I have ever known, and I miss her sooo much. Just one of her warm hugs would be wonderful.
She went to be with the Lord in 2004. Since then, I have become a grandparent, and will soon marry off two more of our daughters. Oh how I wish she was here. At times I get a sense that she is right beside me...still being my biggest fan, and encouraging me with my home, family, shop etc...I treasure those moments, and give thanks for the privilege of having her for my Mom, and having such a wonderful example of how a mom should love.
I have prayed for you, and will continue to, sweetie.
May the sweetness of the memories of your loving Mom bring you comfort in those tender moments, and may God bathe you in His gentle loving kindness.
Blessings and hugs,
Becky
And this photo is precious. That is one thing I tell women to do...get a recent photo with their moms. I don't have one and sooo wish I did.
ReplyDeleteTender blessings,
Becky
Dear Anne, this photo is so precious, I miss my Mom every single day, it will be 3 years April 7. I will be sharing a very special story about last Mother's Day on my blog,about what happened that day last year when I went to her grave site.
ReplyDeleteA Mother's love is never ending, she is with you each and every moment of every day, never lose sight of that. I feel my Mom's presence in so many ways, when I am happy and sad and especially when I need her. You must find comfort in all the beautiful memories she has created for you. Sending you hugs and love, N.xo
My heart aches for you, Anne. There are days when you can almost put it out of your mind that they have passed over (by not thinking about it) and days when it is all so painfully raw that you can hardly stand it. Blessings to you today,sweet girl- xo Diana
ReplyDeleteI just lost my dad on Feb. 24, and even though it wasn't my mom, I still adored my dad. He was 90. There isn't a second of my waking day that I don't think about him. I pray for peace and acceptance for you, just as I do for myself.
ReplyDeletesweet photo.. so much love there <3
ReplyDeleteGood Morning Anne Sweetie...
ReplyDeleteOh how my heart aches for you. I can't even imagine my life without my Momma. I, like you share everything with her. Our line is "Who, who loves you?" I send her everything owls for the little who.
I love the photo of you two. It is priceless.
I continue to keep you in my prayers sweetie. I am sending you Big, BIG hugs and so much love, Sherry
That picture of you gets to me...I still have my mom but, my dad has been gone for 20+ years and still there are times when I think how happy/excited he would be to see how my daughters turned out. My youngest daughter was only a few months old when he died and will graduate next month from college. I know when she does I will be thinking of my dad...hugs dear sweet friend and know the pain gets easier and the memories sweeter.
ReplyDeleteAnne, it doesn't seem like it has been six months already. I remember your post telling us she was gone. Being a member of the "club" that Becky mentions is not the kind you want to be in, but you know one day you, too, will be initiated in the most difficult way conceivable.
ReplyDeleteMy dad has been gone 9 years this month. Mom, 7 years in June. There are still moments, tiny moments, that I think I can run next door to show her the roses which are blooming on the bush I planted for her. And then I remember. But I still enjoy those roses and the way she smiled when she saw them.
Allow your best memories to comfort you today, Anne.
hugs,
patty
Sorry for your loss my dear. When my Mother passed away I was beside myself. She was my biggest fan too. We did shows together, made things together. Everything I do, everyday reminds me of her. I think, she would love this, I must tell her that... It is now 4 years since my mother passed away. Time heals, but a mother is a mother even today. A hug and a prayer for you this day.
ReplyDeleteAnne these are hard days but the love you and your Mom share will always be with you. I tell my girls all the time how much I love and appreciate them. hugs to you, Linda
ReplyDeleteSweet Anne, I know all too well how you feel. I was in shock when my mother died and stayed busy that summer and then spent the next 5 years in a whirlwind of grief and dispare.
ReplyDeleteThe picture with your mama is so precious and beautiful. I'm praying for you as you face this day and all the ones to follow.
Love you...Tracy @ Cotton Pickin Cute
Anne- I was shocked to see it was 6mo already it seems like yesterday I read about your mom as I had been following your blog for sometime. I am thinking of you today. I will take your advice to heart. I have decided to cut my hours back at work to help more with my parents. Thanks for inspiring me.. Pam
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for loss. So happy you were able to share such wonderful Mother love.
ReplyDeleteToday is my Mom's two month Angelversary...miss her SO much. I hope our Mama's are smiling down on us today.
ReplyDelete...she with the smile, you with the face that says it all. perhaps she knew what was ahead, perhaps she didn't. but you did. i cried with you that day. still it brings tears.
ReplyDeletein my fondest of thoughts, Tild
Anniversaries of any kind are so difficult when you lose a loved one. I pray for you today, Anne for strength and peace. I do know you feel your mom's spirit so close to you... she knows your good news, your sorrows and your love for her.
ReplyDeleteMy heart is heavy for you, know good, good wishes are traveling from California to you there in Texas on the breezes today.
xoxo~Tracie
Oh Anne,
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your sorrow. I know how much you must miss her every second of every day. I can hear it in your writing.
Please know that my heart and prayers go out to you!!~
Sincerely,
Melinda
I know your pain Anne...I share it. There isn't a day that I don't ache to call Mother and just talk. I do believe she saw Bella and Graycie before we did and this gives me comfort for they are two of the most important blessings in my life that I want to share with her.
ReplyDeleteYou and your mother's loving exchange is similar to mine with the girls. I always end it with "there's just no way you could love me more...no way." I know in my heart your mother felt the same way about you.
XOXO
Debbie
How precious, this photo, these memories, we are all so blessed in so many ways. This photo tells a wonderfully beautiful story. God bless.
ReplyDelete~Ronda
Blessings to you sweet Anne. I will pray for peace and comfort. I understand.
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you sweet Anne. I will pray for peace and comfort. I understand.
ReplyDeleteTears... I know exactly how you feel! My Mama passed away in 1988 and I miss her SO much! Cherish the memories:) BIG HUGS!
ReplyDeleteI think about you so
ReplyDeleteoften, Anne, as you
walk this journey through
the acute stages of grief.
Your faith and courage
continue to inspire me.
Sending you big hugs,
today and every 13th ~
and in between.
xx Suzanne
Thinking of you and praying for you today sweet friend of ours! :-)
ReplyDeleteLove, Vanessa
Sweet photo of you and your Mom. Sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteI hope you'll drop by and visit. I share your pain times 2. Lost both of mine within a year. My recent posts may be an encouragement to you. Yesterday was my day for tears.
ReplyDeleteLifting you up in my prayers today. I remember reading your posts the days after she passed. She is so blessed to have such a beautiful daughter.
ReplyDeleteI so love the picture of you and your mom, Anne ~ the love you shared is so evident in your faces. The "I love yous" were the last words my mom and I said to each other over the phone shortly before she died, her voice barely a whisper. Like you, I still start to get the phone to call her, and then I remember that our next talks will have to wait until heaven. My love and hugs to you, dear Anne.
ReplyDeleteI know you have gotten quite a few comments on this, so you may not even read mine. But I just wanted to let you know, I know exactly how you feel. I lost my mom about a month after you, October 31. Every day when I call my dad, 3 times a day to be exact, I feel like I have forgotten to talk to my mom. Then I remember, she can't come to the phone, I can't call her. I just have to randomly talk to her and not hear her answer me back. I just got my first 4 hens and 1 rooster and I LOVE them. Nothing would make me happier than to have my mom to tell about all of my Chickie Love for my new friends. But she isn't there to tell, so my dad has to listen to non stop stories about my chickens. I miss my mom so much and wish I could have one more day with her that would never end. I love her so much and she was my best friend and biggest fan. My heart breaks every day for my dad who has to live everyday alone, without the love of his life of 58 years.
ReplyDeleteI can't begin to know how it feels to loss a parent I know my heart would be breaking everyday without my parents.
ReplyDeleteI only know what it feels like to watch my son loss his mother; it will be 6 months for him as well this month and my heart breaks for him everytime I think of the all the things he will never get to share with her I could only hope I could be as strong as he is.
Try to remember the good times and hold onto them as hard as you can on the days that are harder than others. God Bless you
Dear Anne,
ReplyDeletemy heart goes out to you and I send my prayers to you that everyday it will get better a bit more. I tell myself that every day, you see my Mum passed away this past New Years Day. I send you many heartwarming and caring hugs
Karen B. ~ Todolwen
My husband encourages me to spend time with my mother often. He lost both of his parents and says there are still days he picks up the phone to call them.
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet photo. You look like your mom. Same smile and eyes.
Dear Anne,
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and know how hard it is. It will be 4 years April, that my mother has passed. I was told once that you put those memories in a place in your heart and you can go to that place whenever you need to, and no one can take it away. I know that it takes time and sending you loving thoughts.
Love, Jody
I know exactly what you mean, my Mom just passed this Feb 11th. I urge everyone who reads this ~ that if they have any questions they want to ask their Mom or Dad ~ ask it now. I was just starting a family research to find out more about our grand and great-grandparents. That door is now closed. The end came so quickly, I had no chance for questions, or to say "I love you", one more time.
ReplyDeleteIt has been three years since my mom passed away and I still find myself thinking that I should call to tell her about my day, or something that I saw that I thought she would like. And then I remember.
ReplyDeleteI miss her very much. I don't think that feeling will ever go away, but I think the acute pain has lessened with time, so that I just remember the sweet stuff, and feel grateful to have had her.
Oh, Anne....your sweet momma would be so darned proud of the special daughter she raised. I am holding my mother closer lately after her diagnosis of Alzheimer's. When I visit her and Dad each week, I see a slight decline in her health and mental capability. I leave their house storing another day's memories deep within my heart... ♥ Sending hugs your way today.
ReplyDeletexoox laurie
I'm so sorry ~ I too know that pain. Mother's day and her birthday feel cruel. Seeing other mothers and daughters laughing and having fun together always makes me miss my mom even more. I just wish daughters that still have mothers would cherish them and realize what a gift they have.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you...
Sending you hugs! Florence
ReplyDeleteGood morning Anne,
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet photo of you and your loving Mother. God Bless you Anne.
Hugs, sandi
I'm so sorry, Anne. I am right there with you...not a day goes by that I need to tell my mom something. It is so hard on the special holidays and such. It's been 2 1/2 years for me, and I still break down and cry at the slightest reminders.
ReplyDeleteJust hang onto those sweet memories.
Lots of love
you are ALWAYS IN MY HEART
ReplyDeleteand on my prayer list ...
bless all those loyal mamas!
God bless you sweet Anne, and you Dear Momma, xo
ReplyDeletesuch a good reminder. thank you. i treasure my mom.
ReplyDeletexo
MC
I didn't realize that your mother passed away in September. My grandfather (who raised me and was like my father) died September 22. I remember being out of blogging for a while and reading about your mom being so sick at the same time as my grandpa. People have told me it gets easier, and maybe it does. I'm not sure. I'm still very sad. Strange things trigger the sadness. Last night I was watching Mad Men re-runs and it made me cry. I cry when I hear certain songs and drive by certain sentimental places. Thinking of you during this time too.
ReplyDeleteYou're in my thoughts and prayers, Anne.... I can't believe it's been six months already. Such good words of advice, Anne... thank you.
ReplyDeleteBig hugs,
Jo
Anne, it's true that with time things get a little easier, but that void is always there. I've found that on those special days and holidays that I can no longer celebrate with my mom I buy myself some flowers...my mom loved flowers. That way I feel connected to her, and I have something pretty to enjoy...something that would make her happy!
ReplyDeleteKat
Dear Anne
ReplyDeleteWhat a Precious Picture of You and Your Dear Mother. You are right about the Special Days.. My Father Passed Away Suddenly in January. His Birthday is on the 22 of this Month. It will be the First one with out him for the Family. So Many thoughts in my Head... I will just have to wait and see what the day brings. I know you Understand what I mean.I am So Grateful for the Memories as I am Sure you are too.
Many Blessings to you and your Family.
Hugs
Jill
I can't believe it's been six months since your sweet mother has passed. My heart still aches for you, but I feel that she is still with you and smiling down at you for all the good things happening to you lately. Cherish those you love and take time to show them how you feel...life's too short!
ReplyDeleteSharon
Anne, i honestly cannot believe that it has been one whole year since your mom past away. everytime i come to your blog, i think of your mom and the pic of you and her. when i saw the 13th on your blog and the photo, i was so stunned that all that time had passed. may God bless you and your mom and family. Bestest,Denise
ReplyDeleteYes, my dear, these dates are the hardest. I know your heart as I have the dates for my son and now my sweet mother who passed a bit before yours. Like you, I long to pick up the phone to hear their voices and to just be able to talk. They meant the world to me and I miss them so much. I sooooo understand. Your mother is always with you and smiling with you and cheering you on.
ReplyDeleteGod Bless you and keep your pretty chin up for this earthly time is just temporary - but you already know this, I know.
xxoo
Becky
Your photo says it all- we all need our moms, no matter how old we are. I wish you brighter days ahead.
ReplyDeleteOh goodness, I am going to cry! I just lost my kitty Boots. He was a true friend for 14 years. Sad day. My late mother passe din 2001 but not until my oldest sister passed away first (February). Then we lost our home (July 2001). where upon the dog Shadow died (July 2001)after being hit by a car. He had a gypsy soul. No one could ever contain him. Then my mom went to be with the Lord in November 2001. After 9-11 I was spent. My girlfriend lost her mom in February 2001: ovarian cancer. Dale Evans (wife of Roy Rogers, the greatest cowboy ever!) also passed away in February 2001. To say it was a tough year was an understatement!
ReplyDeleteMy mom use to say "Whoever told you life was easy lied to you. It is hard. Pray harder." I have a plaque reminding me that life is fragile, handle with prayer! It hangs on our bedroom wall.Hugs Anne
I stumbled on your blog through the pin site and saw the photo of you and your mom...(sigh) I lost my mom on Sept. 10, 2011...seems only yesterday. we walk the walk together...
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